Same-sex friends are different than opposite-sex friends?
But seriously, this is the second straight-people-thread today that got a big ol’ WTF!? ” posted by greekphilosophy at 7:31 PM on
I was with a guy for a year and a half and I knew he never did anything wrong and never betrayed my trust and I always thought he could be friends with any girl he wanted to be friends with. I felt it was definitely OK with him being friends with girls he knew before me, but felt iffy about new girls he’s met since he started dating me – I never said anything because I didn’t want to seem like a crazy controlling girlfriend but inside I didn’t like it.
So I learned that guys don’t really make new friends with new girls unless they’re attracted to them. Sure, they can keep their old friends because it’s crazy to demand them to drop their friendships, but it seems like if it’s a girl he’s met after meeting the gf and he keeps hanging out with new-friend, nothing good with come of that for your current relationship.
If you’re not willing to hang out with new-friend and girlfriend together at once, then girlfriend is right that you shouldn’t be friends with her. If you can all hang out together then maybe girlfriend would see that it’s totally harmless, and new-friend would see how much you’re into the girlfriend and that she exists and the relationship is serious.
Better yet, set up new-friend with one of your buddies. Maybe girlfriend would see that you could be trusted because this would show that you’re totally not interested in new-friend and then girlfriend wouldn’t worry about any other girls you meet. posted by KateHasQuestions at 7:38 PM on